Vacation Time: Since Eric is in school right now our together vacation time depends a lot on his break schedule since he can’t miss more than 1 or 2 days. Our Mexico vacation will fall during his reading break! I also tend to do a lot of girls weekends (and already have 2 or 3 planned this year!) where I use a day or 1/2 a day of time off to go away with girlfriends and Eric gets the house to himself for the weekend (which he really enjoys!) so we don’t always take vacation time together but we try to once or twice a year.
Work: I work full-time and Eric goes to school full-time. Luckily Eric doesn’t have any night classes right now so our schedules are pretty similar but he definitely spends A LOT of time after hours working on homework – either at home or at school – and also a lot of weekends. It is definitely challenging in a lot of ways to have one person in school and the other working. Only one more year to go of this
Food: We almost always go grocery shopping together but I will occasionally go by myself. We usually do one big shop every 1 to 1.5 weeks. When it comes to cooking we actually almost exclusively cook our own meals! One of us will make dinner for the two of us once or twice a week but for the most part we do our own thing. In fact as I was typing up this blog post I was eating leftover soup and Eric was making himself stir fry. We also cook together a lot, especially on the weekends and this is one of my favourite things to do for date night – cook dinner together, open a bottle of wine and watch a movie!
House Cleaning: We switch off doing the dishes and swiffering our main floor (the daily tasks). I usually clean the bathroom and we switch off vacuuming the stairs (though we don’t do this as much as we should). To be honest we are probably not as clean as we should be/could be but our house is almost always tidy so oh well! Occasionally I will go on major cleaning binges and spend 3-4 hours cleaning EVERY ROOM in the house (by occasionally I mean like once a year) and Eric will also go into crazy organization spurts and clean out our cupboards or closets and organize them!
Laundry: This varies, sometimes I do all of it but then sometimes I get lazy and don’t do laundry for like 2 or 3 weeks (I have a lot of clothes…) so Eric will do his own then. haha. Laundry is something I actually don’t mind doing and I like to fold it while watching old Friends or Sex and the City reruns on my laptop.
Yard Work: We don’t really have much of a yard but this is mostly Eric. He built our new deck and fence last summer and also tended to our small herb garden. I did help put together our front flower bed but that’s about it. I have big plans of having more flowers this summer though.
Home Improvement: Haha this is definitely ALL Eric. He did the majority of the painting when we first moved in, built our fence and new deck and did the majority of the work on our kitchen floor! I did however paint our laundry room last weekend on my own then Eric helped me hang our new-to-us cupboards.
Communications: We both communicate with our own friends and family though I do talk to my sister-in-law a lot. I fail at sending out Christmas cards most years but have got them out twice in the seven Christmases we’ve been together haha. We are pretty big homebody’s so our social calendar usually isn’t super full and we both like it that way.
Activities: I tend to be more of a planner and Eric is more spontaneous. So planned activities are usually me and spontaneous ones are usually him!
Finances: We have separate bank accounts and credit cards. Eric takes care of our cash budget for the month – grocery money, gas money, entertainment money etc. and I take care of things like mortgage, strata payment, phone bill etc. Things aren’t split down the middle right now because our income levels are very different so we follow more of a Suze Orman approach to splitting the bills and it works well for us!
Pet Care: We walk Chloe together most nights of the week and then I also run with her on my own. I have a few girlfriends with dogs so will take her for hikes or dog walks with them a lot too. We randomly take turns feeding both pets and I take care of scooping Webster’s litter box. Now that I’ve typed this all out there really isn’t that much to taking care of pets!
Who Wears the Pants: I’m sure a lot of people who know us would say that I do but I don’t think that’s true. Eric definitely wears the pants when he wants to/needs to! He’s just a super easygoing person and lets me handle most things
How does all of the above work in your household?