I’m a homebody
Sometimes I feel like being a homebody is a crime.
As many of you know, I’m in my last year of university right now and recently I’ve been reading lots of blog posts of people who are not in university anymore writing about how much they miss it and people should live it up and enjoy it while they can.
Well I do “live it up” as much as possible but I have to admit I’m a bit of a homebody. After a long day of school I just don’t really feel like going out to do anything, I want to go home, crawl into my PJ’s and relax.
Is that such a bad thing?
Most of the time when I do go out, I have a blast. In fact, on Halloween I didn’t really feel like going out much but I forced myself to and ended up having a great time. I really am a very social person and enjoy being out and about, but I just feel SO exhausted at the end of every day that the idea of going home to be by myself really is the most appealing.
I’m definitely a lot more social now that I’m here by myself, partly because I get lonely at home alone all the time and partly because Eric is the ultimate homebody. He loves relaxing at home after a long day and let’s be honest, staying in in your PJ’s is a lot more appealing when there’s someone to cuddle with. Just sayin’.
Today is my last day of class for this semester! It’s been a busy week; wrapping up end-of-year assignments, preparing for exams and, of course, farewell parties with friends. Tonight is a friend’s birthday and we’re headed out to the bar, then I work all day tomorrow, we are having a group Christmas party – with lots of wine – on Saturday night and I have two final exams on Monday. Whew.
Is it terrible that even though I’m really looking forward to hanging out with all my friends, a tiny part of me kind of wishes I could just go home to bed? I’m positive by the end of the day on Monday I will be ready to collapse into my bed and not move, except I have to work three more days and then it’s home time *happy dance*.
So, tell me, are you a social person that’s always out and about? Or are you a homebody that prefers to spend the evening in?
I’m definitely more of a homebody. I agree, there’s nothing like changing into your pajamas and just collapsing on the couch. Also, it’s weird because my energy levels are definitely not the same as they were a few years ago. I remember pulling all-nighters in college and I can’t even imagine trying to do that now. It’s ridiculous sounding even as I’m writing this because I’m only 26 years old for goodness’ sake!
yep, I am definitely a huge home body. I like to usually have one night of the weekend to spend at home reading or watching a movie while knitting. I just need that down time to recharge my battery. One of my co-workers made a keen observation about me – my favorite activities are reading, blogging, and running, which are all solo activities. Kind of interesting. I do like being social and getting together with groups, though.
I definitely went out more in college but when I think of what I miss about college, it’s not really that – it’s living in such close proximity to all of my friends and seeing them all so much more frequently. And life was just simpler then. But I was just working part time jobs – not an internship like you are doing! So my life was just a little less stressful. And I miss being able to nap or go shopping at 2 pm on a Friday (I always planned my schedule so I would be done by noon on Fridays).
I think I go through phases in life…mostly though, I’m a homebody. I’m with you – who wants to go live it up in a bar somewhere after they finish a busy day? On the other hand, if you tell me I can meet my running club or spin class after work – I’m super excited! ha!
I think recently I’ve found as much as I’d love to be a socialite, I’m a total homebody. I remember feeling a bit lonely pre-David and just scheduling myself to do stuff every single night of the week, only to end up cancelling plans last minute because I was too exhausted and as sad at the time as it was to just sit in on a friday night with the cat, I totally loved curling up, watching a movie and going to bed at 9:00!!
I think there is nothing wrong with wanting to come home and curl up in your PJs. That’s what I like to do too!!
as weird as it is — i wait til bed time to put my PJs on. i stay in my clothes most of the day – i love my clothes.
I’m a homebody, but i wish i could meet friends every now and then. I want to be one of those people that just kinda casually meet for dinner or drinks. I want that!
I could’ve written this post myself. I am the same way, I have fun when I go out but I sometimes…a little bit, dread it leading up and know I’ll be exhausted after.
It used to piss me off when everyone was so annoying about you have to go out every night, you are in college! I never did that and almost 4 years out, I don’t think I missed anything. I had fun, I went out, but not every single night.
I agree with Lisa, when I think about what I miss about college it’s not going out, it’s having all these girls around to watch girly shows with haha and having a bit more free time and less responsibility. My friends living close etc. But there is also a lot I don’t miss- like always having a paper or test hanging over my head, and living with a lot of people was stressful for me.
I am a total homebody. While I do find myself going out on random week nights maybe once or twice every few weeks for the most part I’m home. One the weekends I do go out more with friends — shopping, the movies, dinner and drinks, karaoke. I like flying solo though and when I do spend a lot of time with my friends or being out and about, I definitely need to balance that with me time.
If I had to choose I would say I am a homebody too. I prefer to stay home and chill on the couch all night (and yes, it helps to have someone to snuggle with) but I love to go out too. I definitely go out at least once on the weekends, luckily I have a group of friends that are always planning get togethers with everyone!
There is a big difference between a homebody and a hermit! I think it’s okay to be a homebody!! Definitely better than being a party animal!!! (your body and skin will thank you for that when you are older!!)
GOOD LUCK on the last day of classes today!!! That is so very exciting!!!!
Count me among those who wishes she had “lived it up” a bit more during college. I was always soooo driven and worried about making sure I had PLENTY of stuff to fill my resume that I missed out on some of the more leisurely aspects of college. I imagine it’s much the same for you.
Having said that, though, there’s NOTHING wrong with being a homebody. When I moved into my house (almost 3 years ago), it was the first time I’d ever lived alone and it was HARD for me to not feel like a “loser” when I didn’t go out all the time. After a while, I got used to entertaining myself. I think learning to be content by yourself is part of learning who you are as a person… and part of growing up.
Just as long as you don’t become a hermit–which I doubt will happen
I’m actually planning to do a post about this sort of… a then vs now type thing!
I am up for going out, like crazy balls to the wall out, maybe once a month? And that’s a huge mabye. The rest of the time I’m totally cool with girls’ nights in or out for dinner/movie, crafting evenings, reading evenings, or just bum around in my sweats. I know how you feel, trust me. =)
Overall, I’d say I’m a homebody (although at first when reading your post I didn’t know what it meant
lol). I do like going out with friends – when it’s at someone’s house. I just haaaate bars/clubs . I hadn’t been to one in forever but ended up going to one with friends last Friday… The guys there made me want to barf. It’s just not for me!
Plus, I do love staying
Cozying up on a couch (a working chimney would be great but I have the DVD so it’s ok), with a good book, glass of wine, good food… That’s living it up 
lol!
i’m kinda both. i love my home and could never move far far away. however sometimes its nice to get out. I dont like sitting in the house all day during the weekend because i feel like im wasting a day to do fun stuff. however sometimes when my friends ask me to go out, im like eh i guess- i always end up having a great time but sure do love coming home!
I’m a homebody. Going away to college was really hard for me at first. I used to not be able to fall asleep unless I was in my own bed. I’ve overcome that now, but I definitely always prefer to be at home in my comfort zone. I go out a lot with my friends and like to be sociable, but I definite try to balance that with time to myself and relaxing with a book. That’s the other thing, I LOVE entertaining myself. Some people get bored when alone and need people constantly around them. That’s definitely not me! I could spend all day in my room by myself and be completely entertained.
I am a really social person that secretly prefers being a homebody!
I like being with friends, but despise bars/clubs. A night at a pub is fun though.
I’m with you, I’d much rather put on my jammies and snuggle on the couch. Or put on some good tunes and cook dinner. Or knit. Or read. I’m with people all day at work and I need my alone time to recharge.
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I’m Much more of a social person – I rarely spend nights by myself. HOWEVER – there is definitely a lot to be said for spending time in comfy clothes, relaxing, with a book or Tv or movie, and enjoying Your Own company. I take part it *that* every week as well
Good luck with your exams on Monday and enjoy the holiday party!!
I definitely love going out but I can’t do it all the time. I’ll go out and have fun maybe once or twice a month if I’m feeling up to it or if it’s a special occasion. The thing is that it’s just so bloody expensive! That’s why sometimes the couch is just more appealing. It’s hard to unwind after a long week if you go out. I enjoy being a couch potato
but you don’t graduate until may right?
i’m a homebody fo sho. nothing is better than kicking it around the house. hell, i worked from home for 2 years and would go weeks without ever going anywhere else (yea i know i complained about that at the time – but you can’t do it if you’re not a homebody be default)
but in college i was all about the parties, smoking, drinking, and hanging with my boys (and tons of girls) until i met the wife. she started keeping me at home and sober, and nothing has been the same since.
I’m and out and about kind of person, but the man is a homebody, which is actually a good balance. It forces me to slow down once in a while when I really need to.
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Definitely a home body. My husband is the opposite which is kind of hard to deal with when he’s actually around but we make it work most of the time. I love coming home, changing into PJs or comfy clothes and RELAXING.
Homebody all the way, and I’ve always been like this. It’s getting bad though, because I hardly hang out with friends anymore and I miss them!
So I’m working on commenting more since I read your blog every day!
I’m the definition of a homebody. Monday-Thursday I am home after work reading, relaxing, etc., Friday and Saturday I’m out most of the time and Sunday I’m out during the day and relaxing at night.
I am a total homebody. Since I’m so busy I love being home, especially if I have the house to myself.
I love going out and having plans … but .. especially this time of year when there is so much going on I get overwhelmed. I need to know I have at least one night with no plans where I can veg and watch tv … or do something if I want. But every night is way too much for me. There is nothing better than chill’n in my comfy clothes … but not every night.
I definitely had a blast “living it up” in college, but if staying at home is what makes you happy…then you should do just that!
I always need to be out and about!! During the week I stay home in the evenings – but on the weekend, you can’t keep me at home!
I never was a homebody until about the last year. I turned 25 and got old very very fast.
I would go out all the time in college and I was always spreading myself thin, but I loved it. I absolutely loved the freedom to go out and enjoy whatever drink special was going on with my friends and then we’d have our monster coffees in class the next morning, bonding over our headaches. Heck, I still would randomly go out, even on a work night .. ohh the shame up until this last year. Then I started having this HUUUGE averision to smoke and I suddently got hangovers. Doesn’t make it so glamourous anymore. I usally work hard all day, come home, get some stuff done and plop myself down in front of our snazzy big tv and my lap top. I have gotten sooo lazy in my post-college life.
In general, I went out a good amount in college. But looking back I really used to enjoy the nights I spend alone in my room watching movies throughout the night. Now, I don’t go out very often, if at all. So part of me does look back on my college nights out with a little bit of nostalgia But while I did enjoy remembering those times, and enjoy going out every once in a while now, overall I’d pretty much rather stay in or just go to dinner and a movie.
I’m a homebody to the umpteenth degree (reading this shortly afte rowrk at home in my pj’s) and nothing makes me happier than a Saturday night with takeout sushi and a good movie. But sometimes its good to force yourself to be more social to create balance. Do what you want and create your own sense of balance.
i totally agree. i’m a freshmen in college and everybody’s like OMGGG PARTTYYYYY!!! and that’s fun and everything but like, everybody here goes out every. single. night. and i’m like omg i just want to go to bed hahahah. so yes, i def feel you about being in university and “living it up” when you really just want to crawl up with a blanket and some blogs
i used to be such a social butterfly, then i realized i really like myself, so i love staying home. like you said, especially when you have somebody to cuddle with!
however, one thing i try to remind myself of all the time is how important friendships are. they’re the family you can actually choose, so i try to make sure i’m seeing good friends at least a couple times a month to keep building our friendships
I’m a total homebody too, nothing wrong with it
I think it has something to do with the fact I’m an introvert…
I prefer to be at home and pathetically, I prefer to be alone usually too. But, I enjoy myself when I go out, so sometimes I just have to force myself to.
I know I already touched on this subject on my blog but I’m just a homebody. And I don’t feel like I will ever feel like I missed out on anything by sticking close to home. I do know I need to get out more and making plans with what few friends I do have but I just feel so uncomfortable in bar/club settings.
But, yes, homebody to the max! And I wouldn’t have it any other way!
Oooh, I am SUCH a homebody! I used to be quite the social butterfly, but I’ve slowly become a recluse that would much rather be in the cozy confines of my apartment snuggled up than out on the town.
I’m definitely a homebody. I’d rather be comfortable and cozy at home. I do prefer to have someone there with me, though. I’ll go out of coerced and often enjoy it, but I’m just not a big fan of loud noise and crowds.
I so understand you on this one. I was overly involved on campus, when I had down time, I made sure that’s what I was doing. I would have spurts of wanting to go out and do something, but overall I wanted to be at home watching TV or talking to friends. My good friend pinned me correctly when she told me I was a “closet introvert”. It is so true. I can turn it on, but when I turn it off…I’m cozy in my PJs.
I think it goes in spurts. Depends on my mood and most of the time I want to be social and with people but sometimes I just want to come home and do nothing!
I would agree with what you have heard… I say that to my sister all of the time. I miss being in college terribly some times. Life is just so different when you’re done… it is hard to explain but you’ll know what we mean when you’re done.
Oh man, I feel like I could have written this post. I’ve been so anti-social lately. Not exactly, anti-social..but anti going out and being crazy. On the weekends, I much prefer to relax and chill because my weeks are so stressful. Nothing wrong with it though!
I’m a homebody a majority of the time…..i’m so exausted by the end of the day that i want to do nothing more then go home, have supper and fall into a comma!! I do like to do my own personal running around after work but its defferent when you have to go to networking stuff…..i would rather not go about 95% of the time. Going to meet my close close friends though is usually really relaxing though….but maybe because we don’t get together a whole lot lol
I’m so counting down the days too!!! 7 more working days and then 18 days off!!! WAHOOOOOOO
I’m a true homebody. I live alone and prefer the solitude. When I’m out, I am in the mountain mainly by myself. I surround myself with interests like my guitar, flute, rock collectsions, etc. You’re a bit different. Being married (cohabitating) is somewhat different than a true recluse.