Eric buys lottery tickets, I think it’s a waste of money. Eric always says “I deserve it, you deserve it, we deserve it” and treats himself, me, us; I put money into savings and ignore the boots/clothes/purchases that I so badly want to buy. Eric makes spontaneous decision, I think about things for days. Eric doesn’t plan ahead, I have a five-year plan.
Eric is quiet, I am loud. Eric likes to stay in and I like to go out. He likes to be by himself and I am a social butterfly.
Eric calms me down and I help straighten him out. I keep notes and folders; I know where everything is. He turns to me when he needs a phone number, a pen, the number of hours he worked on Tuesday of last week. I turn to him when I need a reality check and a shoulder to cry on.
Eric always says to me, “things always work out for us”. And I always say, “what if this time they don’t?”
But they always do.
When Eric moved down here I was *freaking* out because he couldn’t find a job and was using up his savings account. Then he got a great job in FSJ for the month of December and started school in January with his savings account replenished. When I was freaking out about finding an internship, he told me it would work out, and it did. Look at how awesome of an internship I ended up getting!
Right now we are tentatively saving for a Europe trip next year. I *really* want it but I’m worried it won’t happen. Eric says it will, he says things always work out for us.
Maybe I should just relax and believe him for once.
Do things always seem to work out in your life? Or is it the opposite? Do you and your significant other have completely opposite personalities like me and Eric?
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Oh I definitely relate to this. When my husband’s calm about something I’m usually freaking out a little (i.e. this whole job thing), and vice versa. We balance each other like that and I think it works really well because of it. Ooh and a trip to Europe! Wow!
I stress about money sometimes, but then I try to sit back because I get this little voice in my head that prolly sounds like Eric telling me to relax and that things will work out. its just a balancing act! i want new boots now too but I am trying to wait plus I cant find any good ones that arent like REALLY expensive!
I understand. My boyfriend and I are very different. He’s loud, high strung, social, aggressive, disorganized, serious with most. I’m introverted, reclusive, easygoing, patient, silly, sometimes meek and quiet, and I always know where everything is. These differences make me feel at times like this can only last so long because eventually we’re bound to want different things, but we adore each other and I hope that’s just the fear of loss speaking.
absolutely. i feel like i’m a neurotic and he’s so freakin’ laid back! but one of us has got to be the worrier! =) usually things work out, but i tend to freak out til they do. so i think this is normal!
I am a firm believer in that things work out the way they are supposed to. At the time I might not get something I want (whether it be a new job, a vacation, etc) and while I often fail to realize it then; later down the road I know it just wasn’t meant to happen that way and it always works out for the best. I just try to be laid back and remember that whatever the outcome, the end result will be amazing.
I think, in general, things usually work out for me. I may go through periods where it feels like nothing is working out, but eventually things fall into place as they should.
I really hope you are able to make a trip to Europe work. It is an amazing opportunity. I have gone on several trips to Europe, but I definitely regret not going after graduating. Once you start your career you just don’t have the time to go to Europe like you do when you are right done with college! So good luck w/ the saving!!
PS – I have kind of dated polar opposites, which has worked out pretty well. I know it would be a train wreck if I dated someone as high strung as I am!
I’ve learned that everything happens for a reason, and we don’t always know what the reason is. I was very dissapointed I didn’t get this one job until I got a different job making $15k a year more than the one I didn’t get. It always works out. Just sometimes the way it works out might not be the way you expect. That means if you don’t get to go to europe, they will have tornado’s or something that week, and you should be glad you avoided it.
I’m more of a scheduler/planner.
He’s more laid back.
He doesn’t seem to flinch when making big purchases.
I think about them for days (unless, of course, it’s clothes).
He’s more casual.
I’m more preppy.
Things tend to work out for me most of the time. If things aren’t going my way, many things aren’t. I’m definitely a victim of the “when it rains it pours,” situations which we all know aren’t fun.
Think positively about Europe. If you want it to happen, go for it and make it happen! Can’t wait to read about a trip to Europe in a year or so =)
That’s one of the things I tell myself most often, usually pertaining to the rescue work, but it applies to other areas as well. It does always work out. Not the way I thought it should at first perhaps, but for the best in the end.
Incidentally, I’m also planning a trip to Europe next year, and stressing that it will fall through at the last minute and won’t happen, which has kept me from talking about it to much of anyone. I need to relax, get out of my own way, and let things fall together the way they always do.
I absolutely HATE it when people say “everything happens for a reason.” I think it’s cliche and not really that helpful when you’re having a hard time. But it’s kinda true.
I prefer: “everything will work out in the end.” Maybe not how you want it to, or how you planned it, but things *do* always work out how they’re supposed to.
Oh, and my bf and I are very different– he’s more like you and I’m more like Eric. It’s hokey, but we recently looked up our “match” in astrology and it was RIGHT ON!!
Steve and I are opposites like you and Eric. I’m the high strung crazy and he’s the mellow one. But we’re share the craziness sometimes…lol if that even makes sense. It would take too long to explain. When he gets crazy stressed then i calm him and when i get just plain retarded he calms me lol when i say things aren’t going to work out he says they will eventually, but the problem is i want it to happen NOW! Things usually work out for us…..maybe not always on time but we eventually get what we plan done. Europe trip is what we want too, but as of this moment it looks like it’ll get bumped to next year. Maybe even with you and Eric…lol I would love to go for a year of just travelling…..get our plane tickets and just go, finding little jobs here and there if we run low on funds!! Oh how i wish i would have travelled after highschool before my adult life began……oh well still not too late!!
Nathan and I are about as opposite as people get. He saves, I spend. He’s a social butterfly, I’d rather be at home. He’s the most laid back person I’ve ever met in my entire life and I’m a worrier. He’s disorganized, I’m super organized. He’s loud, I’m quiet. He’s a TV/video game/computer game person, I’d rather be doing something outside. He’s a night owl, I go to bed early. Things have a way of working out for us, though not always in the way we want/expect. It’s more like we deal with a situation we see as horrible and then a few weeks/months/years down the road we look back and say “THAT’S why it happened that way!” – because it’s worked out just like we wanted it too, it just took some time. Does Eric ever win on his lottery tickets?
usually, the big things work out. But the things I could make happen that I’m just not putting action on…they don’t happen. A new career and new opportunities do not just land in your lap (or my lap, anyway). One must have to go out and put it out there. Just not sure when that’s going to happen. But ultimately things work out the way they should. The man and I are very opposite, but it works out pretty well.
Me and my boyfriend are completely opposites as well.
And I’m guessing you saw it. But on Vitamin G today they had a posting about how November’s Glamour is having a story on the Lizzie Miller drama, and how they’re going to try to use models more like her in the future. I figured if you hadn’t already seen it, you’d enjoy reading it!
Aww Amber, this is a really cute blog. I can totally relate: Dyllon and I are complete opposites when it comes to some things. He always just wants to “play things by the minute” and i love planning. He says the same thing, usually when i start complaining about exams and how bad i think it went or how worried i am about it. He goes “Don’t even worry, you’ll do fine, you always do!” Well… thats not completely true. But it really is nice to always have someone rooting for you and reminding you that you’ve got what it takes.
Dyllon’s always had a positive attitude like Eric, and truly believing that everything will work out just fine. What a gift that must be to be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel all the time! Sheesh. Take care love.
I really used to think the same way… who hasn’t (in the way that “what if this time it doesn’t work out?”). I have learned to live more in the moment and be more positive about the future and put that out into the universe. Everyone has their downer-days and self doubts, so it is nice to have someone to show you the bright side of things
Yep we’re very different! I’m wild and crazy and I yell and get frustrated, and always know where everything is, or how to do something. I’m social and he’d rather stay at home on the couch. Despite trying to be laid back I’m so not. I have a plan for everything.
AB is super laid back, even keeled, go-with-the-flow calm, etc. etc.
But we do balance each other out quite well
Yes!!! When i was reading your post, I was tihnking that is us (My husband and I)… a few times in arguments, he has said that we don’t have alot in common or are different, but i think how boring (and noisy/silent) it would be if we are the same.
I think you are right, it helps you stay grounded, and you know what, I am the organised one, and have lately come to resent it… but i think you made me see, everyone has a different skill.
BTW i’m a new reader… love your blog!
you sound just like me. i really appreciate have more not-so-type-a people in my life to help relax me and slow me down. sounds like eric is the perfect remedy to some neuroses that could otherwise get the best of you
i RELY on my more relaxed loved ones to keep me in check!
the boy and I also have pretty different personalities. but I don’t think either of us subscribe to the “things always work out” theory
sometimes I like to think that, mostly in an attempt to calm down or destress about something, but I know that it really is up to me, for most things. I definitely wouldn’t say things always work out in my life! sometimes things do just work out, but not always. and I don’t think it is good to rely on things just working out all the time without putting in effort. but at the same time, for some things there is just no point in stressing out over it… I think if things normally work out for you and Eric, that is great and you should be hopeful about the Europe trip. if you keep saving, there is no reason why it shouldn’t happen! I think it is smart to start planning for it though, just don’t worry too much about it 
oh, and re: flying stand-by… because we were using employee passes (the boy’s mom used to work for United) we had to dress nicely, especially since there’s a chance that we would get put in first class. and the agents really did check when giving us our boarding passes; they would lean over the counter to make sure I wasn’t wearing jeans or sweats or flip flops!
Oh…girlfriend. Things NEVER happen how I plan them. This is so frustrating because I am an intense PLANNER!!!
And, my hubs and I are total opposites – but that’s why we mesh so well together.
No worries!
We are exactly the same way… and I absolutely love it.
Great blog babe, but I have never in my life said that I’ve deserved something… and yes I do read your blog just really really late at night
. I love you and ill see you in 5 days, 13 hours and 30 minutes
Hey I tagged you in a photo meme if you’re interested!
Reading this post makes me so happy that things are always working out for y’all. I think that I have luck like this in streaks. Currently, I’m hanging on to some good luck, and I hope it continues through to get me a job in a new city. And that it makes your Europe trip happen.
But whatever happens, I believe that everything happens for a reason. And for whatever reason, if y’all don’t make it to Europe, there will be something here that will be worth staying home.
This is totally me & Dan.
Hence why we knew we were perfect for each other and are now married! YAY!
Sometimes when you’ve given all you can all you can do is have a little faith.
Things always have a way of working themselves out. You’ll see.